I've always said it. Dating apps need to be used in the background. You never want to rely on dating apps for the following reasons: - lose social skills that are necessary to build/maintain attraction face to face
- become lazy and reliant
- 21st Century life is online so you don't want to add every part of your life to online
- As a man, you're up against it. 80% of people on Tinder are men. 20% women. Not the best odds!
- You will be more successful face to face GUARANTEED.
The list goes on. BUT! I understand that using dating apps is a common practice nowadays and in some situations, it makes it useful, for example, if you travel to another city, you can set your location to that area and start swiping before you even get there (actually really useful).
But getting matches is difficult. Getting matches that are actually with people that you like is more difficult. You need to have these things done right (in this order): 1. Pictures showing your face clearly 2. Pictures showing you doing interesting things for passive attraction
3. Light-hearted emotionally engaging profile.
That's it! Of course, that is for men. For women, just make sure you are looking pretty in your pictures and not just face pictures because for many men, they see it as a red flag.
And guys, if you don't look like Brad Pitt or David Beckham, it's not the end of the world. Working out, going to the gym and keeping fit is something EVERYONE can do. There is no excuse with that apart from laziness. That is one way you can become much more attractive. Another way is style. Clothing style. A style that suits you well. You can easily go to clothes shops, ask a clothing assistant who looks like he dresses well (ask a guy, not a girl as she may use her attractiveness to distract you into buying something terrible) and get advice. Even look on the internet for people who look similar to you and see what style they have.
And once you have your image sorted, then it comes down to game. How can you get the woman's attention? How can you stand out? What to say? What not to say? Body language? The list goes on. Lucky for you, I've done all the research online and offline to understand and know what works and what doesn't.
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